50 words of mental health insights

True mental health is never about zero negative emotions, but the ability to live in peace with joy, anger, sorrow, and joy without forcing yourself to always be "positive."

When I was doing charity psychological counseling in the community, I met a young man who worked in Internet operations. He required himself to maintain perfect scores at work for three consecutive months. Even when he was scolded by customers, he would laugh in the mirror and say, "Adults need to get rid of emotions." In the end, he collapsed because he was ten minutes late for takeout. He sat in the flower bed downstairs for two hours and could not stand up.

Counselors from different schools have quite different ideas on emotional regulation. Those with a psychoanalytic orientation will think that if negative emotions are blocked up like a flood, the dam will have a leak sooner or later, and the grievances that have not been vented will not disappear, but will only wait for a small excuse to explode.； The cognitive-behavioral school of thought does not place so much emphasis on "disease". Instead, it is recommended to put a small label on the emotion. For example, I am just "a little irritable" at the moment, not "I have a bad mentality." It is enough to untie the emotion from self-worth. There is no need to force yourself to be happy immediately.

To be honest, I can't keep my emotions stable at all times. I stayed up until three o'clock last week to catch up on the supervisor's report. When my mind couldn't move anymore, I didn't bother to deal with it. I just closed the document and nestled on the sofa to watch half an episode of "Tom and Jerry" that I watched when I was a kid. I was just having fun without thinking about anything. I woke up the next day and finished the finishing work in two hours.

Don’t believe the nonsense on the Internet about “saying goodbye to anxiety in three steps” and “developing a strong mentality in seven days”. Everyone’s emotional rhythm is different. Some people have to chat with friends for three hours to slow down, while others squat on the roadside and watch the old man play chess for half an hour and then resurrect with full blood. There is no unified health standard. Being comfortable is better than anything else.