400-word essay on emotional regulation and stress

The core of emotional regulation is never to completely eliminate stress, but to learn to find a dynamic balance between the pressure threshold and self-needs. This is the most intuitive feeling I have had as a community psychological counseling volunteer for three years.

I used to think that regulating emotions meant suppressing negative feelings. It wasn’t until I came across different schools of counseling methods that I realized there was no standard answer. Cognitive-behavioral counselors will advise you to find out the irrational beliefs behind them - for example, if you stayed up all night for a project and your plan was rejected, don't label yourself "I can't do anything well", and replace the obsession of "I must be perfect" with "I can pass 60 points this time", and the pressure will be relieved in an instant. Mindfulness-oriented practitioners will also say that you don’t need to judge your emotions. If you feel depressed, just stand by the window for three minutes, touch the cold anti-theft net, and feel the wind blowing on the tips of your ears. There is no need to force yourself to “get better” immediately.

Last week, I met a girl who was a sophomore in high school and failed twenty in the mock exam. She squatted at the door of the consulting room and cried for half an hour. I didn't say those "don't be sad" scenes. I handed her a can of iced Coke and waited for her to calm down. After she drank it, she wiped her face and said, "Actually, she is afraid of being scolded by my mother. I can make up for it by answering two more sets of multiple-choice questions next time." You see, the emotions are flowing and the stress will not take root at all.

Some people think that carrying it hard is also an adjustment. A friend in sales said that even if you want to cry before signing the contract, you have to hold it in. It’s okay to have a hot pot and cry your heart out after the money arrives. There is no standard solution. As long as you don't suppress your emotions into physical reactions such as migraines and chronic gastritis, you can do whatever makes you feel comfortable. (Full text 397 words)