What to do if there is too much psychological pressure

If the psychological pressure is too great, don't force yourself to "adjust your mentality". Do "stress diversion" first, which is much more effective than pouring chicken soup, struggling, or suddenly quitting work.

Last month, I met an Internet operation girl who came for consultation. She worked continuously for 20 days during Double Eleven. When she got home, she was so sleepy that her eyelids were glued together. She had to read self-help posts on "How people in the workplace can resist stress" for half an hour. The more she read, the more panicked she became. In the end, even the regular weekly report could not be written for two hours with a blank document. She used to feel that her stress was due to her bad mentality, so she read half a book of inspirational quotes from famous people, but when she thought about going to work, she felt tight in her chest and felt nauseous. Many people have talked to me about stress in the past, and they always fall into two extremes: either they feel that "adults have to bear the pressure, and they grow after getting through it", gritting their teeth and carrying it until they have an emotional breakdown, or they listen to people's advice, "Just quit if you are not happy, why bother yourself." I lay naked at home for half a month, and my stress tripled when I saw the pile of unread messages and mortgage reminders.

I was working on an industry summit project two years ago, and I tried to carry it out when I was working on it for three weeks. As a result, I confused the needs of the two brands when connecting with the customer, and I had to pay for it for half a day in front of more than ten people. Later, I also tried to take leave and lay down for two days. When I came back, I piled up three times the work. I almost cried when I sat at my workstation staring at the to-do list. The "stress offloading" I came up with later is actually not a complicated methodology to put it bluntly. It does not ask you to check off a to-do list one by one. It is to first separate the "things" and "emotions" that are tangled up in your mind - just like you are carrying a suitcase that is so stuffed that you can't even zip it up. The box is squeaking and about to fall. If you carry it, you will definitely not be able to walk two steps, and throwing it on the ground will not work. The best way is to squat down and open the box first. Take out the useless wrapping paper and throw it away. Balance the weight of heavy things. If you really can't take it away, find a courier to send it away, and then it will be much easier to drag it away.

For example, if you feel out of breath when you think about going to work, don't subconsciously attribute it to "I hate this job and I want to quit." First, think slowly: Are you afraid of failing the project report you are going to give today? Or are you afraid that your boss will tell you if you haven’t finished the work you owed last week? Or are you still holding back your anger after your colleague dumped the blame last week? Sort out these entangled emotions one by one. If you can solve something that can be solved in 10 minutes at the moment, do it for those 10 minutes first. For the rest that cannot be solved temporarily, take it out and put it aside first. Don't let everything be crowded in the center of your heart.

Don’t listen to other people standing around talking without your back hurting. Some people will say, “If you can’t handle this little pressure, what will you accomplish in the future?” Others will advise you, “Happiness is the most important thing. Leave if you don’t feel happy.” Both of these statements fail to look at your situation. Only you can understand the extent of your own pressure. If you have lost your appetite for meals, suffered from insomnia all night long, or even shed tears for no apparent reason while sitting there, don’t listen to what others say “it’s just pretentious” and go to the hospital’s psychology department for a screening first. Pathological anxiety requires professional intervention, just like if you have a broken bone and cannot hold on for a run, it is not a question of whether you have enough willpower.

I met the operations girl who came for consultation a while ago. She later compiled the schedule and leadership application for a project with the lowest priority and handed it over to another colleague who was free. She took an extra 10 minutes detour after get off work every day to buy some cakes she liked. Last week, she told me that she could finally fall asleep with her pillow on her face, and she no longer had to stay up until midnight to report on the weekly report. You see, you don’t actually have to force yourself to get rid of all the pressure at once. If you can take a breath of relief first, you have already won half the battle.